“Literally the best law seminar session I’ve been to in many years.”

CAI National Law Seminar 2026 · Best session of the conference

Composure Through Conflict

Stop Taking Things So Personally

A repeatable method for legal professionals who need composure under pressure — delivered by two practitioners who use it in the field.

Presented By

Sam Osborne + David J. Graf Esq., CCAL

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4.7

Overall Rating / 5

95%

Presentation Skills

Evaluations · CAI Law Seminar 2026

The Session

What This Program Addresses

The Problem

Emotional reactivity under pressure distorts judgment, damages relationships, and erodes credibility. Most conflict training teaches communication techniques. This program goes earlier in the chain — to the perception underneath behavior.

The Solution

A structured perceptual methodology delivered by an attorney and a Demartini Method facilitator. Includes a live volunteer demonstration so your audience witnesses the methodology working in real time — not described, but seen.

Monday Morning Behaviors

What Leaders Handle Differently

Identify Triggers

Why specific people and situations produce charge — and trace it to its source

Apply In Real-Time

A self-governance process mid-conversation, even in high-stakes moments

Reframe Conflict

As data rather than threat — changing the decisions that follow

Communicate Precisely

Under pressure, reducing ambiguity and reactive escalation

Lead With Composure

In destabilizing environments, without suppressing or performing

Return Independently

To the process on their own — they leave with method, not just feeling

The Duo

Your Speakers

Attorney · CCAL Fellow · Colorado

David J. Graf

Partner at Moeller Graf, P.C. in Colorado, and CCAL Fellow. David brings the lived reality of adversarial legal environments — the cost of taking conflict personally. His delivery is candid, self-aware, and real. He puts words to feelings professionals experience but rarely name. Attendees recognize themselves in his stories and leave with different eyes.

Demartini Method Facilitator · Los Angeles

Sam Osborne

A metal shard nearly took his sight — and transformed his relationship with perception. He has studied perception since 2008 and the Demartini Method since 2014, and now works with attorneys and leaders who need composure under pressure. He delivers live demonstrations of perceptual transformation. Audiences witness it working in real time.

From the Audience

What Audiences Are Saying

This transformational experience has forever changed the way I practice law and relate to people. Practical and easily adaptable concepts. I highly recommend this seminar!

Augustus Shaw IV, Esq., CCAL

President, College of Community Association Lawyers

One of the best sessions I've attended at any conference. Sam and Dave delivered practical tools that immediately changed how I approach conflict—both professionally and personally.

Dawn Roscoe, AMS, PCAM

VP of Operations, Professional Properties Management

The session reinforced emotional discipline during difficult conversations. Clear tools to separate facts from reactions. Supporting staying grounded, professional, and effective when conflict arises.

Michael Tillotson, CMCA®, AMS®

VP of Community Management, HOALiving/CAM

Totally engaging. Different. Funny. Challenging. Best session I attended this conference. And on a Friday morning! Bravo, gentlemen.

Conference Attendee

CAI Law Seminar 2026

Sam was outstanding and provided a refreshing perspective. He also gave common sense and practical solutions.

Legal Professional

CAI Law Seminar 2026

I highly recommend Sam and David for their presentation for conferences or leadership events serving professionals who operate regularly in stressful, conflict-rich environments.

Brian Butler

President, FirstService Residential Illinois

Evaluation Data

By the Numbers

Source: official session evaluation, CAI National Law Seminar, January 2026 · 39 submitted responses · Friday 9:10 AM session. Multiple attendees independently rated it the best session of the conference.

4.7

Session Rating / 5

4.9

Content Match / 5

95%

Presentation Skills

Program Delivery

One Program, Many Formats

Standard Formats

60-minute keynote program
90-minute keynote with extended Q&A
Half-day workshop (4 hours)
Full-day retreat (8 hours)
Multi-session conference programming
Virtual delivery available

All Formats Include

Pre-event consultation with organizers
Customization to your industry and audience
Live Demartini Method demonstration
Audience volunteer for real-time methodology
Extended Q&A with both presenters
Perceptual balance framework handouts
Post-event support and referrals

Speaking Investment

Programs from $5,000

Both presenters, every format. Preferred booking lead time is 90+ days, as calendars are coordinated across two speakers. Early inquiry recommended.

Virtual Program

$5,000

60–90 minutes live by video, including the live volunteer demonstration and Q&A.

Pre-event consultation with organizers
Customization to your industry and audience
Live method demonstration with an audience volunteer
Q&A with both presenters
Perceptual balance framework handouts (digital)

Education Session

$7,500

A conference education or breakout session, 60–90 minutes, in person.

Pre-event consultation to align the session with your program
Customization to your industry and audience
Live method demonstration with an audience volunteer
Q&A with both presenters
Perceptual balance framework handouts

Keynote

$10,000

A keynote or general session, 60–90 minutes, plus all customization, live demonstration, Q&A, and handouts.

Pre-event consultation to align the program with organizational challenges
Customization of the framework to your industry and audience
Live method demonstration with an audience volunteer
Post-program Q&A session
Perceptual balance framework handouts for attendees
Full coordination between both speakers for seamless delivery

Half-Day Workshop

$15,000

Up to 4 hours of hands-on work with the method. Full-day and multi-session formats quoted on request.

Everything in the keynote
Small-group application exercises
Each participant works through a live charge of their own
Opening keynote + breakout combinations
Executive team and board retreat versions

Travel & Accommodations

Billed Separately

Travel for both speakers for in-person programs. Actual costs vary by location.

Round-trip airfare for both speakers (economy or premium economy within the US)
USA events: 1 night hotel (night of event)
International events: 2 nights hotel (night before and night of event)
Ground transport to and from the venue
Virtual programs: no travel costs

Before You Book

Common Questions

Ninety days or more is preferred. As a duo program, dates are coordinated across two speakers' calendars. Rush bookings under 60 days may be possible — inquire and we'll confirm availability within 2 business days.

Yes — every engagement includes a pre-event consultation, and the framework, examples, and live demonstration are tailored to your industry and the specific conflict environments your audience operates in. Legal, association, and corporate versions differ meaningfully.

Yes. Virtual programs start at $5,000 and include the live volunteer demonstration — it translates surprisingly well on camera. Hybrid formats (in-person keynote with remote breakouts) are also an option.

A volunteer from your audience works through a real conflict with Sam using the Demartini Method — live, unscripted, in front of the room. The audience witnesses a perceptual shift in real time rather than hearing it described. It's consistently the moment attendees mention in evaluations.

Reach out as early as possible and we'll work with you to find an alternate date. Rescheduling and cancellation terms are outlined in the speaking agreement provided at booking.

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